How To Dismantle Shame

June 25, 2025

Have you ever felt like something about you was just…wrong? In this episode, we dive deep into the roots of shame—where it comes from, why we all experience it, and how it impacts our relationships in sneaky ways like defensiveness, over-explaining, or shutting down. Unpack the experience of shame, tracing it back to early childhood moments when we first began to believe something was wrong with us. They explore the difference between shame and guilt, how shame shows up in relationships through defensiveness or withdrawal, and why healing it requires identifying core shame messages and grief over unmet needs.

In this episode, we talk about:

- Shame is the fear of disconnection

- Shame shows up in relationships

- Grieving unmet needs

- Replacing shame with truth

- and more!

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